150 Ways to Show Kids You Care: #19 Listen to their stories.
StrengthsFinder, rooted in many years of research, identifies the strengths of individuals and provides an on-line assessment that describes the natural talents of people. It provides a common language to expand conversations about what is right with people. Strength based relationships have a profound impact on student development and performance. Mentors and mentees can better understand and maximize the unique human potential that each person brings to their roles in school and life. Applying strengths will help students: ”¢ Learn more about their unique talents. ”¢ Help each student use his or her natural patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior and apply them to activities within and outside of school. ”¢ Impact students”™ lives positively. ”¢ Influence each student”™s achievement. ”¢ Match students to developmental experiences that foster leaps in growth.
As you go to mentor this week, your mentee might have some questions regarding the recent school shooting. Check with your TeamMates Coordinator to see if the school is providing any specific tips or resources that you can utilize as a mentor.
Below are some additional resources that might be helpful to you.
Crisis Care Tips for Parents (From Boys Town’s Parenting.org)
”¢ Everyone – including teens – is hard-wired to recover from crisis events and has “built-in” coping mechanisms.
”¢ It is normal for kids to feel upset, sad, confused or afraid after something bad happens; let your child know it”™s okay to have these feelings.
”¢ Always be available to talk and listen to your child, but don”™t force children to talk about their feelings.
”¢ Parents, friends and teachers are the best sources of support, caring and understanding.
”¢ Getting kids back to their normal activities as soon as possible promotes coping and healing.
”¢ Give kids time and space to sort through their feelings.
”¢ Monitor kids and stay vigilant as the healing process continues, even months after the event.
”¢ If kids can”™t get back to their normal life, show unusual changes in their routines or give other signals they are struggling, seek professional help.
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If your mentee has questions about their safety at school, reach out to your TeamMates coordinator to find out the school’s safety plan. Making your coordinator aware of your mentee’s concerns will help them support your mentee throughout the week.
If you have any concerns about your mentee, take them to the school counselor or TeamMates Coordinator. This will ensure your mentee has the professional help they might need.
Thank you for your dedication to youth.
TeamMates Mentoring Program
11850 Nicholas St. Suite 120
Omaha NE 68154
The commitment of a mentor is the foundation of building a positive relationship.
TeamMates mentors are asked to be committed to:
- Mentoring once a week for an hour
- Mentoring for a minimum of one school year
- Keeping the best interest of the youth at the forefront of the relationship
- Being consistent in your meetings
- Being a good role model
- Asking for help if needed
- Being patient
- Being a safe adult
- Respecting the rights of the mentee
- Respecting cultural diversity
- Understanding the importance ofconfidentiality
Confidentiality is an important part of building trust in a mentoring relationship, and it is often one of the most delicate issues for mentor.The mentor should let the mentee know what s/he share with the mentor will remain confidential, unless it causes harm to him/herself or others.
As a mentor, you will likely learn a lot about the private matters of your mentee and their family. If your mentee has entrusted you with private information, please respect the family’s privacy. You never know when you are talking to someone’s cousin, sister-in-law, neighbor, co-worker, babysitter or significant other. If you need to talk, call or make arrangement to see you TeamMates Coordinator or a school counselor. Things can be worrisome, and it is understandable that you need to process this information.
If your mentee reports abuse or illegal activity, contact your TeamMates Coordinator and make a report to Health and Human Services. The Nebraska hotline number for reporting is 1-800-363-2178.
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Recently several of the mentors and mentees of TeamMates of Mullen completed their strengths training. We had a great turnout and will be training those who missed our first training with Allyson Horne. Allyson Horne was a great inspiration to make Strengths a wonderful tool in our lives as a whole not only in our mentoring process. Here is a little more about Allyson [Read more…]